From the initial shock of preparing funeral arrangements to the never-ending checklist that follows, it seems there is always something for a widow to take care of. And once the whirlwind of tasks begins to calm, we find that there are many ‘normal’ things in our new lives that aren’t so normal anymore. I’ve often said during these hard months that I wish I had a guide-book, a manual of sorts that would tell me what to do, give me advice on how to do it, and tell me what to expect. You may be thinking the same thing.

Below I have compiled a list of websites, articles, books, organizations, and other resources that may help you along this journey, from day one to beyond. Some of these resources I am personally familiar with, some I am not.  This list is not exhaustive by any means and is continually a work in progress, so if you know of a great resource out there please contact me and I will gladly share it.

[Disclaimer: I cannot personally endorse any of these websites, books, or organizations. I am not a mental health, legal, or financial professional. Please use these sources for information only and consult professionals as necessary. If necessary, resources are labeled by topic.]

Updated July 8, 2012


In the Beginning — Checklists and Helpful Guides

Your Grief Journey: Don’t Do It Alone — Widow Communities and Support

Finding Your New Normal — Help for Your New Roles

How to Help Friends/Family Help YOU — Links to Share with Loved Ones

Financial Matters  — Things to Consider and Where to Look for Help

What About the Kids? — Parenting a Grieving Child

Carrying on Their Legacy — Honoring Your Loved One in Your New Life

Spiritual Matters


Helpful Books — Literature to Help You Along Your Path

Specific Resources for Military Widows

Making Arrangements


Financial Assistance/Scholarships


Honoring Their Sacrifice

Giving Back

Helpful Books

Mark Snyder

On October 15th, my son-in-law Matt Larimore was rushed to Tacoma General Hospital after experiencing a massive aortic aneurysm from a congenital heart defect no one knew about. He passed away at only 33 and leaves behind his wife, my daughter Dani, 29, their almost two year old daughter Olivia and their second child is due in March. Matt also leaves behind his loving parents, a brother and more friends and acquaintances than I ever dreamed of.
We are still reeling from this loss but none more acutely than my daughter and Matt’s parents and brother.
I’ve been examining my motive for sharing such a personal tragedy with you and only wish that Matt’s story might be shared on your show or web site.
I’m sure people reach out to you on a continual basis with similar tragedies and at times it must feel like you’re being pulled in all different directions. But I’m only doing what any Dad would do for his daughter in a similar circumstance and trying to ease the financial burden that lies ahead as Dani struggles to suddenly raise two children without the love of her life helping her.
I implore you to kindly consider raising awareness of Matt’s untimely death and perhaps spread the word about the fund set up for my daughter at:
Thank you for your consideration.
Mark Snyder
3109 32nd St. Place S.E.
Puyallup, WA. 98374

Thank you for providing this extensive list of resources. I myself was widowed young (age 29), although that was 15 years ago. But I recently published a unique guided journal for widows, and I think it is especially useful for those who are widowed in their early to middle-age years. “The Widow’s Journal: Questions to Guide You Through Grief and Life after the Loss of a Partner.” Please check it out and consider listing it as a book resource on your site, as it is different than any other book for widows out there. The website is Let me know if you would like a sample copy and I can mail you one. Cheers. – carrie

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